Taking Charge of Your Life

Very often we look for someone to blame or some reason to see why it never was our fault. We are always in search for an excuse why a situation failed and how impossible it was for us to have changed the circumstances around us. In every instance, it never was our fault- someone else just had to be blamed. In doing this, we cause a shift of balance in our lives; we unconsciously lose control over our lives and ability to handle responsibilities and changes around us.

How easy it is to say “it’s not my fault”. So easy it is to shift the blame to some other person. “There is no way I could have changed that”, “he is the reason why we could not get to our target”, “if not for traffic or the bad driver…”-these are all excuses we make to mask up our failed responsibilities. When we fail to take charge of our lives and own up to responsibilities, we subconsciously lose hold of our lives and every time we fail to own up to a circumstance in our lives, the easier it is to lose control of our lives. Every time we make excuses and fail to take charge of our lives, the easier it becomes to fall prey to making more excuses next time.

Instead of finding something or someone to blame, take your time to find a solution to that problem. Yes, it is alright to expect your parents to send you to school or your government to provide a job for you but when they fail to, it is not right to blame them. It is wrong to accuse them of putting you at a standstill or making your life what it is. They sure may have failed you and cut your expectations short but there are in no way responsible for the way your life turn out to be. So, it is only wrong to expect the outcome of your life to be the input of other people; your life is simply the input you have in it and how much you take control of everything around you. 

Rather than taking a great deal of time to make up excuses, why not invest that time constructively into finding ways your life can be better; for a time lost wailing over failed expectations can never be recovered. Instead of depending on what people have to offer you and how much your life could have been better in a different family, religion or country, why not work intensively on developing that which you have. Take that decision today to be a better version of yourself and take charge of everything life throws at you. Be willing to be responsible for everything that happens to you. Only when you do this can you consciously and subconsciously build the mindset to be a man in charge of your life. 

About the Author

Ettoh Oghenekefe is a content creator. He writes articles, stories and develops ideas/content for start-up firms. He enjoys best translating words and ideas into enjoyable stories.